Look and Listen

Biography

There was a loving, tender woman who was newly married. She had survived one divorce and finally found the man of her dreams. She learned after reading many books on successful marriages that good communication was one thing that was vital. Wanting to know if she was meeting the needs of her husband as a friend, lover, and mate, she would ask her new husband, "What are you thinking." After having long, deeply rewarding conversations while dating, she was surprised when he would often say, "nothing." She was tenacious and decided to come up with a unique and fun way to make that communication happen. This woman brainstormed and wrote 18 questions that would reaffirm the marriage, but also sweep out underneath the proverbial rug. She suggested to her husband that they answer the same questions separately and compare answers. He agreed. Then the fun really began when they selected the night to share their answers. She wore a sexy outfit, put flowers and candles on her table, and prepared a wonderful dinner. They started with wine and a toast. Then set down to eat with their questions and answers. She answered first and then her husband would answer the questions, one by one. She found out she was meeting his needs, that he loved her creativity, intellect and sex appeal. He learned that she thought he was sexy, had a great sense of humor and loved his intellect. This love fest went on for at least two hours. She was happy. He was happy. And they have been completing the process for the last 15 years. They have taught each other how to make living with the other a joy. They have celebrated the firsts in their marriage and discussed hard issues that needed addressed.

Inspiration

A loving husband. A faith in the Trinity. The beauty in our world-art and nature, a beautiful smile. A belief that I could help others create a lovely way to communicate and increase intimacy in their relationship.